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to PAbE TWENTY PQUCHKEEPSIE joornal THURSDAY. JULY 20. 1967 Paper Zooms Like a Rocket ff "PaJerbrTh ySftl1 That' the news of the season (or women who sew. Leading the paper parade Is a brash, young firm which (irst shook up fabric world with matching cottons and vinyls, and then adapted its winning formula tq; the paper goods line.w Actually, the paper fabrics aren't "true" paper. They are made of nonwoven cellulose strengthened with nylon or Da cron or rayon fibers.

And they are fire resistant The most exciting thing about paper' Is that you can do all kinds of things with it that you wouldn't dream of doing with fabric. Paper means that you can for today, right this minute. Paper means that you can sew 'just for fun. Paper means that you can make a dress in an hour or less, eliminating linings, facings and hems, substituting ties for zippers and buttons, leaving out time consumingconsuming details which are essen tial to fabric but dispensable with paper. What sort of things do you sew with paper? Think about a series "Of bright paper pinafores to a little girl's white party dress.

Think about a collection of party aprons. Think about maternity clothes that really CAN' be thrown away. Think about beach coverups, hats, ponchos, shifts, tote bags and sunsuits. Think about a completely disposable wardrobe for a traveling baby (or a traveling mother) think of the costumes for the class play, or Halloween, Fourth 'of July, New Year's Eve, all the times when you really need just once clothes. Think of decorating a room for a special party, and about decorating closets, pantries, bassinets, summer, rooms, playrooms, nurseries, patiosj Beginners who shy away from cutting 'into fabric will slash I "I'JflKisVw sSniHHItsJK wliasHi i SsHiHsM FOR LESS TIIAN $3 and under an hour in sewing time, you can have this sassy shift of flower printed paper.

The back' ripper was replaced by ties of the same double fold bias tape that was used to bind thcirmholes and neckline. The fit is negligible;" the hemline is simply scissored to the best length. recklessly into paper, building up a reservoir of confidence. Conservative or shirtwaist types can experiment with exciting new designs, colors and silhouettes, and maybe discover a whole new fashion personality. Pros who want to make.

their own patterns can experiment on paper instead of muslin, and translate their work into fabric while wearing the original. Little girls will learn to sew on paper, because it produces instant fashion. Paper Tips There's just one danger about paper and that's overen thusiasm. It's so pretty, so easy to sew, and such fun that almost anyone could get carried away. Here are a few practical tips: Remember that's it's paper: cheap and disposable.

Don't let the cost of the buttons, trimming' and findings add up to more than the cost of the paper material. Look carefuUyat the pattern before buying. Shop in the easy to sew sections of the pattern catalogues or pick patterns rthat Dbviously require a minimum number of major pieces. Avoid patterns with set in sleeves, separate collars or cuffs, pleats and other details. Alter the pattern and try to sew without mistakes.

Paper is meant for quick stitching, and doesn't, take to ripping and restitching. Sew as you would for any simple cotton: normal bout 10 stitches to the Inch. Eliminate extra pieces, such as facings, but bind neckline and armholes with bla tape to avoid possible chafing at points of wear. Don't bother with rippers. Instead, make ties or button loops of bias tape.

Zippers aren't worth the time to insert or the cost to buy. Remember: throw out the rule book when you sew with paper. Sew it quickly, wear it gaily, and throw it out. At the Market By Anita F. Iloldco, Extension, Home Economist Summertime for bright, fresh looking vegetables to' perk up hot weather appetites.

Yellow and green snap beans so crisp they. break with a snap will providecolor, variety and texture to a main dish, and are equally delicious served hot or chilled? With production nearing its seasonal peak, snap beans are now available at economical prices. There are many varieties" of green and yellow snap beans. Some are flat, some oval and some round. The color or shape you purchase is strictly a matter, of personal preference.

Best quality snap beans should be fresh in appearance, clean, firm but tender, crisp, free from scars, and reasonably well shaped. Beans that are firm, crisp and tender will snap readily when broken. The most desirable pods are those with very immature seeds. When seeds are half grown or larger, the pods are likely to be tough or fibrous. Stringi ness is undesirable and can be 'detecledby breaking the bean and gently separating the two parts.

If beans appear dull, lifeless or willed, it means they've been held too long after picking. Be' sure to refrigerate snap beans as soon as possible after buying, storing them in a tightly covered container, if you wasn them before storing, be sure to remove excess moisture to prevent the beans from wilting. You can serve snap beans plain or fancy. They are good with butter, milk and butter, or creamed. Chopped mushrooms and slivered almonds dress up 1'er cathedral length veil of Eng buttered beans.

Chilled snap beans are excellent in salads. Their bright green color makes them an excellent vegetable to serve with barbecued meats. Families who have easy ac cess to fresh snap beans may want to can or freeze freshly picked ones for later use. As is true of all low acid foods, it's best to can snap beans in a pressure cooker. Further direc tions can be obtained from your County Extension Service, Home Economics Division.

For the family who orefers to freeze fresh fruits and vegetables at their peak of flavor, there is a new Cornell Extension bulletin entitled' FREEZING HANDBOOK FOR FOODS which is available fromthe Home Eco nomics Division, 236 Main Poughkeepsie, at a nominal cost. This HANDBOOK includes up to date information for freezing fruits and vegetables, meats, poultry and fish, and cooked and prepared foods. Personal Mention Joseph of Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Romanelii 196 Mill St, is.

a patient at St. J'rancis Hospital. He is a pupil St. Peter's School, Violet Avenue. Miss Renee Lynn Kronbere.

daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Carl Kronberg, 66 Mitchell has been named to the Dean's List arDouglass eoBexertfew fii wick, NJ where she is a junior majoring in cnemistry, m' Kappi nnu ilc ft Mr. and Mrs. Fred Gruner, 14 Lackhart Lane, Highland, had as their house guests on Sunday and Monday, Julie Hrib, Poughkeepsie, and Nancy and Robert Hrib, Little Falls, N.J.

Emile A. NeJame, 9747 Shore Road, Brooklyn, has been appointed an associate controller of Bankers Trust Co. Married to the former Miss Rosalind Betros of Poughkeepsie, he Is a graduate of Bingbamton High School and Cornell University and is a captain in the Army Reserves. Marine Second Lt John Ar "Morrison, son of Mr. and Mrs.

James A. Morrison, Overlook Road, has completed the four week course of Flight Preparation School at the Naval Air Station, Pensacola, Fla. Miss Ellen Leary, daughter of Dr. and Mrs. Herbert Leary, Slate Hill Drive, is attending a summer course in classical ballet at' the Saratoga Performing Arts Center.

She is one of 30 New' York State ballet who were the recipients of full resident scholarships as a result of regional competitive auditions given throughout the state. Miss Leary is a student at Our Lady of Lourdes High School and has studied ballet at the Ballet Arts Studio, Beacon, for six years. She also is a leading dancer with the Dutchess Counjy Ballet. Marine Ffc. Carl R.

Jessen, son of Mr. and Mrs. Carl R. Jessen, 348 Vassar Road, has reported for duty at the Marine Corps Air Station, Yuma, Ariz. Miss Nancy C.

Berger, 23 Feller Road, is attending a' training for Peace Corps volunteers at the University of Miami at Coral Gables, Fla. Storekeeper Seaman David L. Barbeau, son of Mr, and Mrs. Raymond Barbeau, 9 Woodland is serving in Vietnam asl a memDer oi jxavai otoouc construction Battalion 'Miss Cheryl A. Lickona, 49 Lake attended 'the summer planning comerence ai Aioany Stat University July M.

Marine Pvt, William E. Grey, on WllllanMJrey5JBuck Ingham has been graduated from eieht weeks of recruit training at the Marine rvirni n. cruit Depot, Parris Island, S.C. Dennis T. Searles, son of Mr.

and Mrs. C. Thomas Searles, Kingston, who will be a junior in the fall at the School of Music, Ithaca College, is the new music librarian of the college chapter of Kappa Gamma PsL national music iraternity, Miss Nancy Elaine Stone, daughter Of Mr. anH Mrs SanM Stone, 56 Forbus is attending a summer enrichment program at uenysourg (fa.) College. Ernest Bocchino, son of Mr.

and Mrs. Ernest J. Bocchino, 13 E. Dogwood Drive, was graduated in fnftm TOIHa. al lege, Trenton, where he re ceived me ueita Sigma PJ schol kev for the Mcrfiecf cMin.

lastic average among business administration program, graduates, an Alpha Epsilon Zeta honor itnciefv rrtrwtn fa, mil Standing Rphnlarchin aim rcauersnip campus adm ires ana an Aiumni Association Drize for hftvintr hepn thicAn 4Ka Outstanding (rmHiiattntr canirt. In the School of Business Adminis tration. Mr. Bocchino and his Sister. Ann crrarliiatA Of Pnilffhkeeneie TTicrh C.hnnl were honored by their parents at a recent party at the Italian Cen ter.

Guests numbered 65. Accident Victim's Condition Improves ALBANY Charles Chlanda. 16, who was gravely injured in an auto accident July 3, was reported off the critical list today at Albanv Medical Center anH in satisfactory condition. The youth is me son or Mr. and Mrs Charles Chlanda, North Road Town of Poughkeepsie.

He was a passenger in car operated ny ur. samuel B. ivagan. ur. nagan was killed When his atltl AnA a tmntnr.

trailer collided in the Thruway, near watsxui. two Kagan children: Sasha, 11, and Michelle. 10, remained in grave 'condition todav at the Alhanv hncnifal Their mother was injured. Her conaiuon is satisfactory at the hospital. Teacher Dropouts Seen as Problem NASHVILLE.

Tenn. (API Dr, L. 0. Andrews, coordinator of field services at Ohio State University, says the nation faces a blecer nrnhlrm with teacher dropouts than with student dropouts, lie says: "We do not prepare people to. stay in teach Jng lonjnoughjojemejrujy professional" Crafts Exhibit, Sale Set at Bard College.

There will be a handcrafts exposition and sale in November at the Proctor Art Center, Bard College. The exhibit is. being sponsored by the Women's Campus Club. Hudson Valley craftsmen from Dutchess, Columbia ana Ulster counties wishing to participate should submit their work the first week in November so that display tables may De reserved. All categories of handcrafts will be accented, inrludincr jewelry, pottery, silver.glass, crewel and tapestry.

Due to the lack of space, paintings will not be accepted. MRS. ALBERT SCACCIA 'Scaccia-Hutchings Rites in Arlington Holy Trinity Church. Arling ton! was the scene of the recent marriage of Miss Karen 'Ann Mulchings, daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Durward E. Hutchings, 6 Baldwin Road, and AlberLJohn Scaccla Jrvson orMcandMrs. Scaccia, LaGrangeville. The dou ble ring ceremony took place at 3 o'clock, with the Rev. Walter Rien Teau officiating.

The bride; who was given in marriage by her father, wore 'a gown of re embroidered Alencon lace and silk organza over silk taffeta, It was made with a fitted Empire bodice trimmed in pearls, a scoop neckline, long sleeves and an A line skirt. A detachable chapel train extended from the back of the waistline. tJMJce.Brooltt Designs lish silk illusion was caught to a silk cabbage rose with petals of pearl trimmed lace, and she carried a cascade arrangement of white carnations and ivy. Miss Donna Hutchings was maid of dionor for her sister and Michelle McKeown served as flower girl. The other bridal attendants were Miss Linda Butler.

Pleasant Valley: Miss Jill Hutchings, anqther sister of the bride; Miss Nancy Saccla, LaGrangeville, sister of the bride groom; Miss Linda Tripp. Cary, N.C cousin of the bride; Mrs. Mary Mason, Hopewell Junction, and Mrs. Linda Murphy. TheJionor attendant was gown ed in pink and the others orchid silk organza over taffeta, floor length, with fitted Empire bbd IrvAs lifinslnrl in niViittk Cmlce Iopq scoop necklines and long full sleeves cuffed in matching jace.

Their headpieces were double bows of matching organza with four tiered bouffant veils. Miss Hutchings carried a cascade arrangement of orchid carnations and the others carried pink carnation cascades. The flower girl wore a frock of white lace over pink tafleta. She carried a basket of carnations. William Tripp, Cary, served as best man, by proxy, for William Curtis, Hyde Park.

The ring bearer 'was Patrick McKeown and the ushers included Edward Mason, Hopewell Junction; Louis Ferruzzi, Brewster; Edmund Kuklinski, New York City; Stephen Guernsey, LaGrangeville; C. David Scaccia and Robert Zwissler Jr. The reception took place at the Hellenic Center. Later, the couple left here on a wedding trip to Hawau. For the trip, the bride selected an aqua silk suit witha flowered silk blouse, jei low complements and a corsage of yellow tea roses.

A 1964 graduate of Arlington High School, the bride attended Dutchess Community College and formerly was employed as a secretary by the Western Printing and Lithographing Co. The bridegroom, also a 1964 graduate of Arlington High School, is employed as a subcontracting mechanical designer. MRS. HERBERT DAVID PALMER Susan Julia Riedinger Wed to Herbert D. Palmer Miss Susan Julia Riedinger, daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. William D. Riedinger, Violet Avenue, Hyde Park, and Herbert David Palmer, son of Mr. and Mrs. Herbert C.

Salt Point Road, were married Saturday af ternoon. The 3 oclock double ring ceremony took place at the Hyde Park Methodist Church. Given in marriage by her father, the bride wore a floor length gown of white rpsepoint lace over taffeta. It was de signed 'with a fitted Empire bodice, bateau neckline, bracelet sleeves and a cage back. Her veil of white illusion was attached to a headpiece of white satin and pearls, and she car ried a cascade arrangement of white carnations with fern.

The maid of honor, Miss Ma risa Greco, was gowned in yellow chiffon over taffeta, floor length, with a sleeveless Empire bodice of green lace and a scoop neckline. Her yellow floral headpiece was trimmed with a matching veil of illusion, and she carried a bouquet of yellow carnations with fern. Gary Palmer, Highland, was his brother's best man. Ushering were Joseph Peters and Frank Greco After a reception at the home of the bride's parents, the couple left there on a wedding trip to Florida. For travel, the bride chose an A line dress of white pique with a scoop neckline and puffed sleeves.

She had yellow accessories and a white orchid corsage. Mr. and MrSj, Palmer will reside in the Cedar Garden Apartments, a 1 1 a Road, Hyde Park, upon return. The bride attended Haviland Junior High School, Roosevelt High School and High bchool, where she was a cosmetoloirv student The bridegroom, an alumnus of Roosevelt High School, served three years as a military police officer at West Point and now is employed as a deputy sheriff in uutcness county. BHHRgiltTIIB Ann Landers Solves Problems 1" I George Lee Corsilia Engaged to Stewardess Love at first sight! Nobody can resist this charmin' cat; grand for a.mascot fan.

Teenagers, tots adore 14 inch Miss Glamor Cat. Dress in jewels bows, sit on bed. dresser. Pat tern 7045: pattern pieces; directions. Thirty five cents (coins) for each pattern and IS cents for each pattern for first class mailing and special handling.

Send to. Alice Brooks! I Needlecraft Box 163, Old Chelsea Station, New York N.Y. 10011. Print Name, Address, Zip, Number. 210 MOST BEAUTIFUL NEEDLECRAFT DESIGNS in new 1967 Needlecraft Catalog! 2 free patterns, knit, crochet fashions, everything.

25c Sensational, new value! Book of Prize AFGHANS has 12 com plete patterns. Beginner easy knit, crochet. 50c Museum, Quilt Book 2 complete patterns for 12 superb American quilts. 50c Bargain! Quilt Book 116 complete patterns. 50c Vassar Senior Engaged to Be Wed Mr.

and Mrs. Robert E. Ashley, New York City, announce the engagement of their daughter, Cynthia Jane, to Jonathan Angell Stableford. He islhe son of Mr. and Mrs.

LouIsT. Stable ford, Easton, Pa. Miss Ashley is a member of the Class of '68 at Vassar College. Mr. Stableford, a graduate of Williams College, is enrolled In the master's degree program in teaching at Wesleyan University.

Mrs. Orville M. Hoeg, Alden, announce the engagement of their daughter, Miss Sue Ann Hoeg, to George Lee Corsilia. He is the son of Mrs. George Corsilia, Millbrook, and the late Mr, corsuia.

Miss Hoeg is a stewardess with United Airlines at O'Hara International Airport, Chicago, 111. Mr. Corsilia, a graduate of St. Lawrence University, is a sales engineer for the Morse Chain Di vision of Borg Warner in Chicago, An August wedding in Minnesota is planned. ModerrrEtiquette Q.

What refreshments Lserved at a tea? A. This is up to the hostess. Just cookies and maybe small thin bread and butter sandwiches are sufficient. For a large, more formal tea, where a larger group is present, several varieties of "tea sandwiches," small cakes, or pastries may be served. Don't overdo it with heavy food.

Remember, this is the afternoon. Q. When someone phones our home and asks for a member of our family who is not at home, should I ask who is calling? A. If tjie caller does not identify himself, rather than ask. "Who is calling," it Is muchhekJ ter to ask, "May I tell him who called," or, "Is there any message?" Q.

Would it be proper for me to give my fiance a robe on his birthday? A. Since he is jour husband to be, this would be quite all rigHt. THE GIRLS By Franklin Folger Alice warned us to stay away from the French Revolution It makes you get on and off the bus too rriuchr Carol Bambakos Married in City Announcement is made of Ihe June 18 marriage of Miss Carol Jean Bambakos, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Terry M.

Bambakos, 822 Griffis St, Cary, N.C., form erly of Poughkeepsie, to Peter Charles McGinnis. The 3 o'clock double ring ceremony took place at Christ Episcopal Church, with the Rev. R. Rhys Williams and the Rev. William Boak officiat ing.

The bridegroonrsparentf are Mrs. James J. Morris, 55 A Carroll St. and Robert J. Mc Ginnis, 2 N.

Randolph Ave. Escorted and given in marriage by her father, the bride was attended by her sister. Miss Nancy Bambakos, Cary, as maid of honor. Bridesmaids were the Misses Donna Marone, Middle hope, Judy Gattine and Irene Bovier. The bride wore a princess gown of white silk peau de soie with a basque bodice, long tapered sleeves and a skimmer skirt ending in a chapel length train which extended from a bow and long streamer at the waist MRS.

ANTHONY LIGUOR1 Ann Talbot Wed in Valley Announcement is made of the recent marriage of Miss Ann M. Talbot, daughter of Mrs. James Talbot, Pleasant Valley, and the late Mr. Talbot, to Anthony R. Liguori.

The Rev. Father Fox Tofficlated atther doubIering rites at St. Stanislaus' Church, Pleasant Valley. The bridegroom's" parents are Mr. and Mrs.

Joseph Liguori, 25 Wasson Drive. Louis Kelsey gave the bride in marriage. She was attended by Miss Mary Ellen Trunk, Pleasant Valley as 'maid of honor. Bridesmaids the Misses Deborah and Donna Liguori, sis ters of the. bridegroom, and Miss Linda Borchers.

Henry Wyman was best man and the ushers were Vincent Serrano, Wappingers Falls, Paul Hickey and Nicholas Liguori. The bride's gown of hand clipped Chantilly Jace oversilk taffeta bad a fitted Empire bod ice, scalloped Sabrina neckline trimmed in tiny pearls, short lace sleeves and a cage skirt which ended in a circular train, Her butterfly bouffant veil of English silk illusion was caught to a double crown of lace, pearls and crystals, and she carried a cascade arrangement of white phalaenopsls orchids and stepha notis. The honor attendant wore a floor length 'gown of peony pink linen, sleeveless, with a fitted Empire bodice accented by white daisy lace, a scoop neckline and an A line skirt having a'Watteau panel marked by white daisy lace. Her headpiece was a cluster of white daisies with pink centers and a bouffant veil in peony. The others' gowns were similar, only in light pink.

Each carried a bouquet of maroon or chids and pink roses. There was a reception at Talbot's Inn, Pleasant and a party afterward at the home of the bridegroom's parents. The couple now is living vin Colonial Gardens. Mrs. Liguori is employed at Talbot's Inn Jler husband, a 1966 graduate of Roy C.

Ketcham High School, is an employe of the and Stripping Co. Anne Adams Lrebs rununib 1 line. All featured appuques 01 re embroidered Alencon lace and crystal beading. Her chapel length veil of English silk illusion, three tiered, was attached to a headpiece of Swiss flowers, and she carried a cascade ar rangement of white roses, steph anotis and baby's breath with white streamers. The honor attendant was gowned in white dotted Swiss, with an A line skirt and a yellow streamer marking the Em pire waistline.

Her headpiece was an open crowned picture hat of natural straw, the back accented by a yellow velvet bow and streamers, and the carried a colonial bouquet of white daisies and vellow roses with yel low streamers. The others gowns and headpieces were sim ilar, but with green streamers and they carried colonial bouquets of yellow and white daisies with green streamers Robert Gerrish McGinnis was best man. Ushering were William Cerillo. East Williston, Wal ter S. Topor, Boston, and.

Donald Losee. The reception took' place at Norrie Point I' Staatsburj ITnnn return from a weduini trin to San Juan. Puerto Rico, the couple is residing in Wilbur Hoad, Pleasant valley, A graduate of Poughkeepsie High School, the bride attended Albany State University and now is an IBM employe. The bridegroom, who currently is a research assistant at the Constitutional Convention, was graduated from Poughkeepsie IIgh School and received his bachelor of arts degree from Colgate University in 1966. He is studying at Suffolk University Law Schoolr Bostom Dance Scheduled At Mt.

Carmel Church Mt. Carmel Church will be the scene of the third summer dance on Saturday night. The event will take place from 8 to 11:30 o'clock and music will be provided by the Dark Ages. ANN LANDERSi Tod as I was standing ai inp grocery store I saw something 1 could not believe. If I had been told about, this incident.

Instead of witnessing K. with my own eyes, I would have thought it was a made up story. As the line moved toward the checkout counter we passed a rack of cigarets, candy bars and chewing gum. In of me stood a mother' and her son, who appeared to be about 10 years of age. This mother picked up a candy bar, dropped it into her son's pocjeet and then she winked at him and put her linger to her lips, cautioning him to keep quiet.

I watched and listened carfc fullv as the woman checked out her groceries. She did not say one. word about the candy bar, I am not asking what you think of a mother who would dosuch i thing. I know your answer" to that one: What I need to know is what was my responsibility, as an observer? Please advise at once. I'm shook.

WHAT A WORLD DEAR WORLD: If I had been in your shoes I would have followed the woman out of the store, taken her aside, away from the hearing of her son, and told her that she had obviously forgotten to pay for the candy bar. I would have further suggested that she make sure her son saw her pay for the candy bar because surely she would not want her boy to think his mother was a thief. If this were done in a gentle, non accusatory but firm manner, you could have taught that mother a very valuable lesson. DEAR ANN LANDERS: What do you think of a girl who invites her boy friend to move into her home for two weeks while her mother is away on a trip with a man she is not married to? There would be no adults in the house just the girl, her younger sister and my son. The excuse is that the mother wants a man in the house to watch the girls.

I had a talk with the young lady and told her that this was notjnyjdea.nf decent behavior, either by her or her mother. She informed me that I am out of my mind, that this is a whole new world, and I am living in the dark ages. She then said, mother is a wonderful woman and just because she does riot choose to live like you do does not mean she is immoral" ly sonis so infatuated with this girl he can't see let alone think straight. The more I talk, the deafer ha I'd 'like your, ideas 'on this. SAVANNAH TROUBLES DEAR SAVANNAH: You don't say how old your son is.

and this is an important factor. If he is 16 or 17 you oucht to let him have it with both barrels, and snap him out of his deafness right now. If he is of legal age he can do as he pleases so save your breath to whistle. Dixie. Talking to the eirl.

and esne. cially putting the knock on her mother was a mistake. You might have known she would not be receptive to your Ideas. My advice is to stay away from her and stop fighling with ynr fion 4686 T7 sizes WyfeV BASIC. but never boring see how yoke repeats square of neck line.

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Get one pattern free just clip coupon In Cate logHurryiend McjightDQW about this mess. One day he may Eetjircuol tne girl but if you continue ttf criticize her he might hang on just to "prove" that he can live his own We. DEAR ANN LANDERS: Please tell me if I have been guilty of bad manners all these years. If you say I have I'll do something about it. When dining In the home of friends recently, I proceeded to sprinkle salt and pepper on my 1000.

'me woman at mv left in formed me that 'it is an insult to the hostess to season food at the table. She said, "A gourmet cook spends hours seasoning the food to perfection. When she sees a guest add salt. and pepper, sht feels she has failed." What about this, Ann? Is she right? SPICE OF LIFE DEAR Spice: Sorry, But Don't agree with your friend Seasoning is a matter of taste. That's why salt and pepper shakers are on the tables of every restaurant and almost every home.

No hostess should feel insulted if a guest wishes to season the food. DEAR ANN LANDERS: Quite some time ago my daughtcr in law suddenly stopped talking to my daughter. I tried to learn the details but nobody would talk about it. This family, rift bothered rtfe and I decided to get to the bottom of it. Last week I wrote my daughter in law and asked her to tell me why she had stopped talking to my daughter.

I said, "Perhaps there was a misunderstanding which lean help iron out." I was shocked at her answer. She wrote, have always despised your daughter and decided to stop going through hypocritical motions fjf being! nice to her." This reply cut Into' my heart like a How should I treat my son and his wife now? Should I ignore them as they have ig nored my daughter? Or should I pretend that I did not receive the' letter of explanation? SORRY I ASKED Dear Sorry: Let this be a lesson to all self appointed menders of ruptured relationships. The golden slogan "Mind Your Own Business" should be the' cardinal rule for well intentioned "fixers." Now, say nothing more, You've said too much already. 4 jM I.